Five Steps to a Great Relationship

1. Expect less and get more from your partner. Many people assume that conflict is kryptonite to relationships. But it’s actually frustration, Orbuch says. Specifically, frustration forms when a partner’s expectations go unmet, she says. Happy couples have realistic expectations, both about relationships in general and about their relationship in particular. For instance, in her book, Orbuch busts 10 common couples myths. One myth is that healthy couples don’t have conflict. Conflict is inevitable. In fact, according to Orbuch, “If you aren’t having conflict, you aren’t talking about the important issues in your relationship.” Practical tip. Have you and your partner separately write your top two expectations for your relationship (i.e., how you think your partner should treat you; your deal breakers). According to Orbuch, this simple activity allows couples to see what’s important to each other. If your partner isn’t aware of your expectations, how can they meet them? 2. Give incentives and rewards. For the couples in Orbuch’s study, affective affirmation was key to marriage happiness. Affective affirmation is “letting your partner know that they’re special, valued and you don’t take them for granted,” she says. Couples show affective affirmation through words and actions. It’s as simple as saying “I love you” or “You’re my best friend.” Affirmative behaviors can be anything from turning the coffee pot on in the morning for your partner to sending them a sexy email to filling their tank with gas. Contrary to popular belief, men need more affective affirmation than women because women “can get it from other people in our lives,” Orbuch speculates. The key is to give consistent affirmation, she says, ”rather than heaps of it at once.” Practical tip. An affirmation a day can keep a couple happy. Orbuch suggests either saying something affirming to your partner or doing something affirming for them once a day. 3. Have daily briefings for improved communication. Most couples will say that they communicate. But this communication is commonly what Orbuch calls “maintaining the household,” which includes talks about paying the bills, buying groceries, helping the kids with homework or calling the in-laws. Instead, meaningful communication means “getting to know your partner’s inner world,” Orbuch says. “When you’re really happy, you know what makes your partner tick and really understand them.” Practical tip. Practice the 10-minute rule. That involves, “Every single day talking to your partner for at least 10 minutes about something other than four topics: work, family, who’s going to do what around the house or your relationship.” Couples can talk over the phone, by email or in person. The key is to get to know your partner. Not sure what to ask? Orbuch gives these sample topics: “What have you been most proud of this year?” “If you won the lottery, where would you want to travel to and why?” or “What are your top five movies of all time?” 4. Implement change. Every relationship gets into a rut, Orbuch says. Implementing change can help, and there are many ways to do that. One way to implement change is to add something new, she says. “The main idea is to mimic your relationship when you first met one another.” Practical tip. To reduce boredom and keep things fresh, change up your routine. For instance, “Instead of going to the same restaurant, find some new exotic restaurant in the city,” Orbuch suggests. Vacation somewhere new or take a class together. Another strategy is to “do an arousal-producing activity or [an activity that] gives you a surge of adrenal or excitement. What we find is that if you do that activity with your partner, the arousal or adrenaline produced by that other activity can actually get transferred to your partner or relationship.” She suggests exercising together, riding a roller coaster or seeing a scary movie. 5. Keep costs low and benefits high. As Orbuch says, the first four steps focus on adding or bolstering the positives in your relationship. This step focuses on “keeping the costs low.” Based on Orbuch’s study and other literature, a happy couple has a 5 to 1 ratio. That is, they have five positive feelings or experiences to every one negative feeling or experience. It isn’t that you need to approach your relationship with a calculator. But it’s important to “audit” your relationship regularly and consider the “costs and benefits.” Many couples assume that there should be a balance between the pros and cons, but Orbuch gives the following description: If you have “the positives in your right hand and the costly behaviors in your left hand, make sure your right goes way down,” so “The positive things really need to outweigh the negatives.” Orbuch’s research also suggests that there are six top costly behaviors: constant fighting, miscommunication, household chores, jealousy, keeping secrets and not getting along with a partner’s family. Practical tip. You can audit your relationship by essentially making a traditional pros and cons list. Take a piece of paper, and draw a line down the middle. “On the left side, write down all the positive emotions and behaviors connected to your partner and relationship. On the right side, jot down all the negative emotions and behaviors associated with your partner and relationship.” Again, “Make sure the left side is always much longer in length and quantity than the right side.” Ask your partner to do this, too.

10 Tips to a Successful Career Path

1.Know what you want out of life, Be clear about what it is that you want to achieve in your life; about your dreams of what you want to do- then you can put into action a plan that will help you get there!

2.Be the person you truly are. Go after what you want. Sometimes what others want for us is not what we want for ourselves . Be honest with yourself . As Socrates would say.... Know thyself and you will never go wrong.

3.Live for today, but plan for tomorrow , planning for what could be right around the corner is never a bad thing. It's always good to have a plan B. Certainly enjoy every waking moment of your life, but keep a back up plan for you future goal as well.

4. Be your own Visionary. Have your own personal vision for your life and make it real by writing it down and placing it somewhere you will see it everyday. Keep you plan alive by keeping it in you thoughts.

5. Be ambitious! Think action and always be looking out for new opportunities that come your way to better up yourself and what you are doing. Ideas and opportunities sometimes come off the cuff, leave yourself open to see them when they appear ....

6. Learn to adapt . Change is the only thing that remain constant. Change can be your friend so don't run from it- embrace it. Fear is not an option as you move forward.

7. Think Big. Everything you do should be on a grand scale and never settle for less than your personal best.

8. Live outside the box. Think about what could you be doing that others are not doing. Don't be afraid to break free from the pack and run wild with your creative edge.

9. Develope the right mind set. This is the key to your success as your mindset controls your thoughts, feelings and actions. Stay actively possitive as you move in and out of your day. Not everything you do will be liked or accepted, but if you push hard enough one day it might. Quitters never have a chance to win!

10. Built genuine relationship with others.
No one is an island. You need help no matter what you do. Networking is the key to success..

Doors will open that you never thought possible...

“You should step in my shoes and walk a mile. Then maybe you'll see how hard it is to hold back tears and fake a smile.” ‎"Enjoy every moment you have. Because in life, there are no rewinds, only flashbacks. Make sure it's all worth it" “Nothing hurts more than being disappointed by the person you thought would never hurt you.” Learning how to love yourself unconditionally., creating your dream love by being clear on what you are looking for and be sure that you are able to provide that for yourself before expecting someone to provide it for you, that’s where you will find unconditional love. ‎"When GOD leads you to the edge of a cliff, Trust Him fully. Only two things can happen; either He will catch you when you fall or He will teach you how to fly." Believe in yourself. You have something to offer this world that nobody else does! Ask God today to show you how you can benefit others with your talents, gifts and experiences that He's given you. “Know how to fall in love without losing yourself. Never let anyone be your everything because in the end, you might end up with nothing.”

i love u goodbye....

Time to say goodbye...
Time to let go......
Freedom now is urs,
And you can go on ur own....

Am happy now,
Knowing that ur happy too......
You will always be in my heart......
Eventhough were apart........

Someday if god permit,
Accidentally we'll meet.....
I wont deny d fact,
That someone like you
Touched my heart........

Thank you for the love,
I once had......
Thank you for the friendship,
It will never last........
Thank you for coming into my life,
But THANK YOU, i know isnt enough....

Goodbye to you............
Time for me to go,,,,
Ill turn to wave byebye,
And have a last glimpse of you....

Apologizing does not always mean you are wrong;it just means that you value your relationships more than your ego.

my silence is just another word for my pain....


"All of life's lessons you have been through is only a preparation for what is about to happen in your life. If the experience brings you joy, much wisdom has prepared you for this journey. If it brings you sorrow, remember lessons will keep striking you at your weakest point because that's what needs most strengthening."


Sometimes, you need to be alone. Not to be lonely, but to enjoy the free time just being yourself.


LIFE~ It's all about taking chances; about doing something (everyone) said you couldn't do. It's about being goofy. It's about not caring what people think. It's about learning to love what you have.

Some of the difficult moments in life is giving someone a hug when you need it the most. Fighting back the tears in your eyes to wipe off someone else’s tears. Listening to somebody’s grief when you want your misery to be heard. Being the reason for someone’s smile when your own smile is lost. Being the strong one, you know?



Always stay true to yourself because there are very few people who will always be true to you.


“Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.”



Start asking yourself whether each of your relationships drag you down or lifts you up. Surrounding yourself with positive, loving people is half the battle of living a happy successful life.

life's quotes

Some of the difficult moments in life is giving someone a hug when you need it the most. Fighting back the tears in your eyes to wipe off someone else’s tears. Listening to somebody’s grief when you want your misery to be heard. Being the reason for someone’s smile when your own smile is lost. Being the strong one, you know?




LIFE~ It's all about taking chances; about doing something (everyone) said you couldn't do. It's about being goofy. It's about not caring what people think. It's about learning to love what you have. That's life! ♥

fave quotes

Someday, we'll forget the hurt, the reason we cried and who caused us pain. We will finally realize that the secret of being free is not revenge, but letting things unfold in their own way and own time. After all, what matters is not the first, but the last chapter of our life which shows how well we ran the race. So smile, laugh, forgive, believe and love all over again.

fave quotes..

There's always, a little truth behind every "I don't know"... A little curiosity behind every "I was just wondering"... A little emotion behind every "I don't care"... A little pain behind every "it's okay"... A little love behind every "I hate you"... A little I need you behind every "leave me alone"...

You'll never be brave if you don't get hurt. You'll never learn, if you don't make mistakes. You'll never be successful, if you don't encounter failure.

Ronaldo Caunin Bantatua
hi.

January 10Nelia Sarmiento
hello

January 10Ronaldo Caunin Bantatua
how r u?

January 10Nelia Sarmiento
im good
how about u?

January 10Ronaldo Caunin Bantatua
fine.

January 10Nelia Sarmiento
good to hear dat

January 10Ronaldo Caunin Bantatua
pr lng estudyante...hehe
musta kn yay?
naglu2to kba?

January 10Nelia Sarmiento
oo nga eh
meronako cook pero marunong din ako magluto

January 10Ronaldo Caunin Bantatua
mas masrap ky kung ikaw magluto?

January 10Nelia Sarmiento
korek

January 10Nelia Sarmiento
oo nman

January 10Ronaldo Caunin Bantatua
bakit di nlng ikaw magluto?
assistant nlng kunin mo.

January 10Nelia Sarmiento
mahirap un pag madami nabili ako din kc ang nakuha ng mga orders at bayad

January 10Ronaldo Caunin Bantatua
pag lgi seksi suot mo gaya khpon srap cguro kumain jan.

January 10Nelia Sarmiento
sira

January 10Ronaldo Caunin Bantatua
nk backless kp khapon ha1

January 10Nelia Sarmiento
oo nman
sanay ako sa ganun suot kc mainit

January 10Ronaldo Caunin Bantatua
baka pag ako kumain jan di ktulad khpon ung treatment ha?
mas masarap kc kumain kung katabi kita.

January 10Nelia Sarmiento
hahahaha
patawa

January 10Ronaldo Caunin Bantatua
bkit costumer din nman ako ah!

January 10Nelia Sarmiento
di ako pwede i table hahahaha
kc mahal ang charge joke

January 10Ronaldo Caunin Bantatua
eh kung ako lng nman mag isa costumer mo di mo pba gawin un?

January 10Nelia Sarmiento
hindi hehehehe

January 10Ronaldo Caunin Bantatua
ganon?

January 10Nelia Sarmiento
oo ganon

Smile, it makes a world of difference. Dance, who knows when you won't be able to? Cry, holding those emotions inside is bad for you. Kiss, it's one of the most wonderful things in this world. Laugh, what's the point of hiding happiness? Frown, why not let them know you're unhappy? Apologize, you don't wanna lose friends right? Hug, there's no better feeling than being wrapped up close to someone you love. Live, because life is everything :)

disturb us

Disturb us, Lord, when
We are too pleased with ourselves,
When our dreams have come true
Because we dreamed too little,
When we arrived safely
Because we sailed too close to the shore.

Disturb us, Lord, when
with the abundance of things we possess
We have lost our thirst
For the waters of life;
Having fallen in love with life,
We have ceased to dream of eternity
And in our efforts to build a new earth,
We have allowed our vision
Of the new Heaven to dim.

Disturb us, Lord, to dare more boldly,
To venture on wilder seas
Where storms will show Your mastery;
Where losing sight of land,
We shall find the stars.

We ask you to push back
The horizons of our hopes;
And to push back the future
In strength, courage, hope, and love.

This we ask in the name of our Captain,
Who is Jesus Christ.

--- Sir Francis Drake^^

Even if being yourself pisses people off, be you. Do not let your fears of not being everyone's friend stop you. Don't let it stop you from being the true you. Once you find yourself and learn to live with yourself, you will find where you belong.


"My life, my choices, my mistakes, my problems, my regret, my emotions, my tears, my smiles, my happiness, my sadness, it's all mine. So why can't you just stay out of it"

‎"You don't have to see something to know that it's really there. You just believe it."


Everybody just keeps on moving on in this crazy, messed up world. That’s all you can do anyways. You keep smiling, you keep moving, you just keep on living. Cause who knows, you might just be the only thing keeping somebody else from stopping. You might be someone’s everything and not even know it. If you stop moving, what’s to keep them from stopping too? "

God has always a reason and no matter how we wanted things that way, we have to accept that he knows better what's best for us. ~Pete Post~

FAITH

Sometimes you have to stop wondering and doubting. Have faith that things will work out, maybe not how you planned but just how it's meant to be.

LIFE

‎"LIFE is all about TAKING up each day to DISCOVER something NEW. About MEETING old people but making new CONVERSATIONS. WALKING through old roads but still FEELING NICE about it. REALIZING that we have grown a year older but still FEELING YOUNG at HEART. MEETING busy schedules but still FINDING TIME for FRIENDS. Being NOSTALGIC about gone days but looking forward to BETTER DAYS." LIFE is truly BEAUTIFUL if we just know how to APPRECIATE it! :-)

"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone."
~Robin Williams

Never try to hide who you are. The only shame is to have shame. Always stand up for what you believe in. Always question what people tell you. Never regret the past....its a waste of time. There's a reason for everything; every mistake, every moment of weakness, every terrible thing that has happened to you, grow from it. The only way you can ever get the respect of others is when you show them that you respect yourself and most importantly, do your thing and never apologize for being you.

Smile and let everyone know that today, you're a lot stronger than you were yesterday!

You..

Sometimes I love you,
Sometimes I hate you,
But there isn't a day
That passes away
Without thinking about you....

"In tough times, Lord let me stay m0tivated & calm. let me lo0k at h0w far i stl hav to go. let me c0ntinue c0unting my blessings, n0t what i hav been missing. may every day bring new chances to GR0W.. new beautiful things to SEE.. new plans to DO.. new goals to pursue as every new day is a day f0r miracles c0ming fr0m You. Amen..

hope

Although time seems to fly, it never travels faster than one day at a time. Each day is a new opportunity to live your life to the fullest. In each waking day, you will find scores of blessings and opportunities for positive change. Do not let your TODAY be stolen by the unchangeable past or the indefinite future! Today is a new day!

When you feel like frowning,
smile,
When you feel like crying,
laugh,
When you feel like quitting,
start over,
When you yelling,
whisper,
When you feel like hating,
love,
When you feel like falling,
stand,
When you feel like giving up,
hold on tighter,
When you feel like dying,
live,
When you feel like talking,
listen,
When you feel like complaining,
appreciate,
When you feel like closing your heart,
care,
When you feel like you can't do it,
try,
When you feel like you can't reach it,
believe.

May I never forget that all things are blessings. Not a single gift or ability I have would exist without my God. Without Him I am nothing.

Stolen Moments: Love-Bluff (A Poem)

Stolen Moments: Love-Bluff (A Poem): Roman fifty before English "O", Roman five before English "E", "That's Love", in my childhood, My sister told me.  I asked my sister,...

EXTREMELY PEACEFUL.....

MY COMFORT ZONE....

2 0 1 2......

As the calendar flipped over to the new year,many will think whats their new years resolution, Some will look back on the memories and accomplishments that accured 2011...

Along with reminiscing will come the anticipation of what is to come in the new year???
Will 2012 be the year of blessing? Will it be the time I'll finally lose weight?? Will I'll be taking a trip to my dreamed places or will I find that someone spacial???

Even so, I'm going through the motion and I'm trying to do what needs to be done, I'm looking forward to see whats good things God store for me.....

Maybe we make mistakes in 2011, maybe we stumble few times,maybe we had some trials and struggles that we went through, maybe we face with some difficult times that made us question our faith but always remember that GOD LOVE US AND WILL NEVER FORSAKE US, He will never leave us...

2012 has arrived.... I'm so excited about the possibilities of a new challenging adventure....

7 FOODS THAT MAKE YOU SMARTER...

7 Foods That Make You Smarter
Oatmeal. As a strong source of insoluble fiber, oatmeal provides a stable energy that helps your brain maintain consistent focus and concentration. Eating oatmeal can also slow down the digestion of starch, reducing the frequent spikes in blood sugar that usually occur after a big meal. The iron, magnesium, and zinc in oatmeal encourage cell growth and can increase metabolism and regulate blood sugar. To get the maximum nutritional benefits, avoid the instant flavored packets, which are loaded with sugar, and stick with the plain
Fish. Many studies have shown that eating oily fish rich in omega-3 fatty acids can boost memory, concentration, and mental acuity. Omega-3 acids also appear to strengthen the brain's synapses that are directly related to learning and memorization. And if that's not reason enough to eat more fish, the omega-3 fatty acids also help slow down mental cognitive decline.
Walnuts. Eating just a handful of these nuts every day can prevent the decline of cognitive and motor function, increase brain resiliency, and improve cell functioning. Walnuts are loaded with protein and omega-3 fatty acids that balance the unstable neurotransmitters that can cause depression and other mood swings.
Berries. Many types of berries, especially blueberries and strawberries, contain flavonoids, which have been linked to brain cell growth and improved memory. Berries with the darkest, richest colors offer the most nutritional value. Eat the real thing to reap the benefits, and avoid anything that contains "berry flavoring." The antioxidants, vitamin C, and anti-inflammatory properties in berries have been shown to preserve brain function and are a factor in the prevention of dementia.
Yogurt. Widely known as a top calcium source for bone development and strength, yogurt also contains enough protein and carbohydrates in just one serving to keep both the body and the brain energized throughout the day. Yogurt also contains amino acids that encourage the production of neurotransmitters, and enough vitamin B to encourage—along with the protein—the growth of brain tissue while slowing down the aging process
Eggs. These low-calorie, nutrient-dense wonders are rich in protein as well as choline, an important nutrient that helps regulate the brain and nervous system by acting as a messenger between muscles and nerves. If you've been avoiding eggs because you're worried about your cholesterol, take note: Numerous research studies have shown that eating eggs as part of a healthy diet is not a contributing factor to heart disease. The nutrients in eggs also increase memory development and aid in concentration. Another plus? Egg yolks contain lutein, which has been shown to improve eye health.

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE.....